You stand in front of a mirror, looking at your reflection.
It’s been a long and tiring day, and you just want to go to bed and sleep it all away. So that your nightmares and troubles and problems don’t bother you. So that you don’t have to think about what’s going on downstairs between your family who’s arguing again, that you don’t have to think about those lackluster grades of yours, that you don’t have to think about “Are they really my friends?”
“Or…am I just fooling myself?”
Maybe, you think, they’ve been just pretending all this time.
But then again, maybe you’ve been pretending.
Not being your genuine self all the time.
Not being secure in your identity.
Wanting to hide your imperfections, your flaws.
Because, well – you just want to fit in with everyone, right?
But here’s the kicker – everyone wants to fit in (well, most people anyway).
But you’re just so tired of pretending.
And here’s the cross-road: Should I be myself, or continue doing this?
Well, you know what? BE YOURSELF. Don’t sacrifice who you are for the sake of others, for that “five-seconds-of-fame”, that self-gratification. You are worth so much more than that, than whatever Hollywood or whatsoever has declared “trendy” and “of worth”. You are you – there’s only one of you in this world. No one can ever replace you, not ever. So why let others define you when they don’t know you? Why let them shove you into this box that says, “Oh, look. She/He’s not worth it.”? They don’t even know you. They don’t know how you struggle with your flaws, how you have to fight against constant bullying. They don’t know how hard you had to work to get to where you are, that your family members are at odds with each other.
They don’t know your story, your past. But don’t let your past overwhelm your present.
So maybe you’re flawed, but isn’t that everyone? I’m flawed, too. No one is perfect. Accept the flaws, know that you have them and continue to be who you are. If you aren’t happy with your flaws, work on them, minimize them. Will it be easy? No. It’ll definitely be a struggle since you would have to go up against the part of you who’s so used to pretending, used to hiding everything away.
But will it be worth it? Yes. Because by doing so, you’d be accepting who you are fully, flaws and all. You’d be more comfortable and secure in your own skin. If you want to continuously improve, to always be a better person, work on it.
Often enough, the most difficult fights in our lives would be against ourselves.
Because they would be us against our thoughts, our mind, our logic…
To fight to not give in to fear.
To fight to not give up on yourself.
But it’s not impossible to win those fights. It IS possible.
“No one believes in me… I don’t, either.” – Well, you know what? I believe in you.
It’s okay to be not perfect. No one is perfect. What matters is staying true to yourself. And remember this – we will bleed, we will cry,we will break down and be torn apart at the seams. We will have dreams broken,goals unachieved and pain received. But we will overcome them – the brokenness,the emptiness and the problems, because – with every scar, with every battle,remember these four words, “They make me, me.”
P.S: This is a note originally posted on Facebook that I decided to share here.
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